How to cultivate a supported household where everyone feels respected and at ease.
Bringing staff into your home is deeply personal. These are the people who support your children, manage your calendar, prepare your meals, and move through the same sacred spaces where your life unfolds.
It’s not just about professionalism—it’s about *harmony.*
At FOYF & Home, we believe the most beautifully supported households are the ones that move with mutual respect, aligned energy, and clear boundaries. Here’s how to create that flow:
1. Start with Clear Communication—Before Day One
The tone of your household is set long before anyone starts working in it.
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Share expectations in writing: hours, duties, communication style
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Clarify how and when you’d like updates or check-ins
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Let them know where to find things, what’s off-limits, and what’s encouraged
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Be warm, but direct—kindness and clarity can coexist beautifully
When everyone enters the home with a shared understanding, it immediately softens the energy.
2. Define Boundaries with Intention, Not Rigidity
Boundaries aren’t about control—they’re about creating safety.
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Decide which spaces are shared vs. private
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Communicate when you need solitude vs. when you’re available
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Allow your staff to have boundaries too—respect goes both ways
A household without boundaries feels chaotic. One with thoughtful ones? Peaceful.
3. Energy Matters—More Than You Think
The right staff doesn’t just check boxes—they align with your home’s energy.
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A quiet, calm home does best with staff who move softly and intuitively
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A playful, lively household might welcome more conversational, social personalities
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Think about how your family functions—and find people who flow with that rhythm
You’re not just hiring for the role. You’re hiring for vibe compatibility.
4. Encourage Autonomy—While Staying Available
The best relationships come from mutual trust. That means giving your staff the space to do what they do well—without hovering or micromanaging.
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Encourage decision-making within their role
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Be available when they need clarification, feedback, or support
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Celebrate initiative and thoughtful problem-solving
When your staff feels empowered, they show up with presence, pride, and care.
5. Don’t Forget the Human Element
This is your home. It’s also their workplace.
Respect, acknowledgment, and gratitude go a long way.
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A thank-you note or a simple “How was your weekend?”
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Taking the time to celebrate birthdays or milestones
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Offering moments of connection, even in small ways
It doesn’t have to be formal to be meaningful. Human connection is what creates longevity in staff relationships.
Final Note
Harmony with in-home staff doesn’t come from perfection.
It comes from presence. From being intentional, communicative, and kind.
And when that energy flows both ways? That’s when a house becomes a home.
